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Question: How long does it take to plan an elopement?
Question: How much does the typical elopement cost?
Question: Are elopements less formal than traditional weddings?
Question: My girlfriend & I have decided to elope. The thought of everyone in a church staring at her scares her. So when you elope, is there an engagement ring? Also, when I ask her father for her hand in marriage is eloping discussed? Will he ask, when do you plan on getting married etc. My girlfriend says the thought of saying goodbye to her parents at the end of the wedding day terrifies her. So I guess I'm just looking for some thoughts on these matters.


Question: How long does it take to plan an elopement?

Answer: The average wedding takes six months to a year to plan. However, one of the bonuses of eloping is the relative ease and reduced time to plan commitment. Having said that an elopement can be as simple or extravagant as you like. Depending on the marriage license requirements, time to order your dress and the availability of the hotel destination and officiant, an elopement can be planned in one day to two months to as long as one wants to take over it.

In addition, many resorts host weddings and can take care of everything, from getting the paperwork done (coordinating the marriage license and any residency requirements) to booking the officiant, the photographer, the cake, and the champagne. Check out our Destinations & Travel section for a recommended listing of hotels with wedding planning services. All you have to do is pick a hotel, and then sit back, relax, and get married!


Question: Are elopements less formal than traditional weddings?

Answer: Today elopements can have a wide range of styles from a casual city hall experience, a fun Vegas celebration, a simple barefoot ceremony on a beach, or an elegant fairytale affair. Eloping allows you to decide on the formality and backdrop of your wedding.


Question: My girlfriend & I have decided to elope. The thought of everyone in a church staring at her scares her. So when you elope, is there an engagement ring? Also, when I ask her father for her hand in marriage is eloping discussed? Will he ask, when do you plan on getting married etc. (I know he has the only answer but from past history from your readers maybe?). My girlfriend says the thought of saying goodbye to her parents at the end of the wedding day terrifies her. So I guess I'm just looking for some thoughts on these matters.

Answer: Dislike of being the center of attention is a pretty common reason couples choose to elope. The decision to buy an engagement ring depends on how much of a secret you want your wedding to be. If you want it to be a ginormous surprise to friends and family then perhaps do not buy an engagement ring. Or buy one but agree with your fiancée that she shouldn’t wear it until the day of your actual wedding ceremony. What most couples usually do is to proceed in the engagement process, buy an engagement ring and tell your friends and family about your engagement and just not tell them about your elopement plans. You can elope whether people know you are engaged or not.

As far as the situation with your fiancée’s father, you can still ask her father for her hand in marriage without giving away your elopement plans. Most couples usually don’t have any idea when they first get engaged about all the when and where’s of their future wedding. If he asks you about any details of the wedding you have the option of saying that you haven’t decided on any of those details yet; or telling him about your elopement plans.

Some couples do tell their friends and family about their decision to elope before they actually do elope. Often once the couple has explained their reasons behind wanting to elope the family and friends usually understand.

Enjoy your wedding day. It’s really just about the two of you and your commitment to each other, not a ton of stress about doing things to please others.