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General Category / General Discussion / Re: We're Eloping! :)
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on: May 25, 2010, 07:51:40 PM
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Started by ForeverRose | Last post by Neville6977
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Good for you! I got married on Safari in the Masai Mara Reserve in Kenya. We organized it through the Serena Mara Resort and they did everything for us, we just turned up.
I'd recommend doing it this way, away from your home town I mean. You can invite people too, that way you'll only get the people that matter turning up rather than the freeloaders looking for booze.
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General Category / General Discussion / New and need to vent. Very long.
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on: May 21, 2010, 08:23:53 AM
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Started by kiery | Last post by kiery
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Hi all,
I've been with my fiance for about 8 and a half years, we started dating when we were still in high school.
We've been engaged for a little over 2 years now. Wedding plans have come and gone...and changed. A lot.
We would love to have a wedding including our families and friends, but financially we just can't do it. Not by ourselves (not when IMMEDIATE family and very close friends without guests is over 80 people!).
His parents offered us $2K to help, and when we told them our ideas (BBQ at the reception, no liquor- just beer, wine, sodas, water, semi formal, etc;) every one of them was 'wrong' and 'silly' and they told us we needed at least $13K more to have a 'decent' wedding that was 'worth the family travelling for'.
So, on the guise that we were still getting $2K from them, we cut the guest list and thought maybe we could have just close friends, parents, siblings, and grandparents. It came out to 35 people, and I thought we were going great. We found a great restaurant to have the ceremony and reception at. We thought we could start planning.
We talked to his parents last night, and had a big fight. They've decided to not give us the $2K because we weren't going to invite aunts, uncles and cousins. How are we supposed to afford that? Unless we had a dessert reception, or BBQ, which they refuse to give us the money for too because it isn't 'appropriate' and wouldn't be worth their family coming down from WV to SC to see.
*sigh*
We only had about $1500 bucks to pay for this wedding ourselves, this additional $2000 was going to help us have a very nice and intimate wedding. I'm so upset. I thought that of all people, they'd understand since they had a very small wedding.
I want to say also, the $2000 was a nice surprise from them. We never asked or expected them to give that to us. But when they offered it, we certainly didn't expect all of the strings attached either. I also want to say that they KNEW we only had about $1500 bucks to begin with, and that my parents do not have the money to contribute anything.
I don't know what the hell they thought we were going to do. I just feel like we've been set up to fail at this.
Now we're considering eloping. I know it will break my mother's heart but we just don't want to deal with all of this stupid drama with his family. Stupid 'I can't believe you didn't WANT to invite cousin John Bob or Aunt Sue!' when we've told them its not what we WANT its that because we don't have the money to!
I'm sorry. I just really need to get this off of my chest. My fiance is DONE with talking about it. He is pretty done talking to his family for a while actually. He wants to elope, and get it over with.
To be honest, we just want to be married already. I'm a little sad that my dreams of a cute, DIY, fun little wedding are in the trash- and I have to say a little jealous of several of my friends getting married and it going so easily for them (but their families have $$$). But I'm so ready to be married and I just wasn't expecting the drama and everything. This is supposed to be a happy time in our lives, an exciting time. Not a time where all I want to do is cry because of the drama.
I just want to give up on all of this. The other reason I wanted a wedding is because his sister ran off and had a tiny wedding, with her (now) husband's family and it broke his mom's heart. And because my mom has just been so excited from the time we've gotten engaged about a wedding. I just don't want to disappoint anyone but it seems like no matter what we do disappoints his entire family.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I have no one to talk to about it. All of my friends are wrapped up in their own wedding planning to really pay attention, I'm scared of what my mom's reaction will be (I hate disappointing her, she is in bad health and I don't want that to be one of the last memories) and I think his parents will freak out on us. Up to now, I've had a wonderful relationship with his parents.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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General Category / General Discussion / Re: We're Eloping! :)
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on: May 15, 2010, 12:27:17 PM
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Started by ForeverRose | Last post by 8lope
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I havent been to Jamaica yet but Id say that the Caribbean in general is always a great choice.  Sounds like you two have it all figured out, you two should be complimented on that. And it does like you definitely belong together. Sorry I can't be of any help but it would be lovely to hear how your plans have been progressing?
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General Category / General Discussion / Regrets? Reception?
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on: May 14, 2010, 10:59:08 AM
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Started by studentthenbride | Last post by studentthenbride
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I was all for having a wedding, small but with caterers, musicians, the whole thing. But the last three dates I chose have been knocked out due to a many different reasons. It seems like there is no good time for us to get married. Plus, we don't have much money. I will be finishing a year long internship and he will only have one year of work under his belt. Also, his family or rather, his father, has ostracized him.( Due to my ethnicity and denomination.) I am now seriously considering an elopement.
My questions are: How do you know if you'll regret it or not? and, Can you still throw a reception afterward? Is it appropriate to register for gifts?
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General Category / General Discussion / Going to Vegas, any suggestions?
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on: February 06, 2010, 03:40:55 PM
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Started by jlamar | Last post by jlamar
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Ok so I'm new to this and today is the first day I am looking for place to elope. My finace and I are ready to just go tie the knot since we now are expecting a baby! We live in So. Cal and are considering Vegas for the weekend. However, because Vegas is chalk full of wedding chapels, we dont know where to even start looking! I am feeling overwhelmed and was wondering if anyone had a suggestion on where I could start looking.
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General Category / General Discussion / Some advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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on: January 03, 2010, 05:07:32 PM
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Started by jenny21 | Last post by jenny21
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To make a long story short..Im 21 years old and have been dating my now fiance for over a year, were very much in love and have been talking about marriage for quite some time now..only problem is that my mom and brother are the only ones in my family who know about him and act like he does not exist because of one thing..his age. We have a 24 year age difference and I can understand where they are coming from but at the same time Im the one who has to live my life and I know he is the one for me. Oh yea, and my dad doesnt know Ive been seeing this guy, great right.  Personally, the way I view a wedding; its something that is shared between two people, Im not the type of girl who would want an expensive wedding, just something simple that would be special to me and my fiance. So heres the question, should I attempt to plan a regular wedding or just elope? If I do elope should I tell my family first or tell them later on after I do.
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General Category / General Discussion / Types of locations to elope and bring our kids
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on: November 24, 2009, 07:28:15 PM
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Started by sandyswhisper | Last post by sandyswhisper
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We are trying to find a nice location to elope. We want our 4 children to be a part of it. We are not financially able to travel to any exotic locations with the 6 of us. I WILL NOT go to the court house to do this. I want something that is more meaningful to all of us. We live in Vermont and it's starting to get cold! I suppose if I was patient we could wait until spring/summer time and do something outdoors (and FREE).
Seeking suggestions for location ideas that are likely common in most towns. We live in small town Vermont so we don't have any common 'city' type places.
Another issue to consider is that my finance is disabled. I have been researching Bed and Breakfasts, but many of them are not accessible to him...HELP!
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General Category / General Discussion / Long Distance Elopement?
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on: November 19, 2009, 11:49:52 AM
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Started by AndrewM | Last post by AndrewM
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This might sound a tad...radical, but me and my girlfriend live in two different countries at the time being, her in Holland and I in America. We are trying to figure out a way since right now we can't actually be in the same country for the time, being married will actually help with that. Is there a way to elope, long distance-ly? Any information is appreciated. We are working on me getting over to Holland and she already has the papers going for our house. So please like I said, any information is helpful.
Sincerely,
Andrew
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General Category / General Discussion / What should I wear if I'm eloping?
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on: November 02, 2009, 11:02:08 AM
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Started by Black Alice | Last post by Black Alice
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So my boyfriend and I have decided to plan an elopement. We will probably be married in a courthouse but we are planning a reception afterward to announce our marriage. We are planning to have everyone there under the banner of an engagement party so they will all be gussied up.
But I have no idea if I should wear sometime too formal or more relaxed? Any ideas?
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